If I'm not writing, I'm not fully living. It has become the essential element that defines who I am.

When we are no longer capable of love, we are no longer alive.

People don't actually think there is such a thing out there as angel research.

Maybe that is what marriage is: Two people creating a cult together.

In terms of style, I think the memoirist should have a novelist's skill and all the elements of a novelist's toolbox. When I read a memoir, I want to really, deeply experience what the author experienced. I want to see the characters and hear the way they speak and understand how they think. And so in that way, writing a memoir feels similar to writing a novel.

I taught myself to write in order to understand who I was and so yes, writing was an act of self-actualization in the beginning.

Finding one's voice - or creating a narrative voice that has the power to carry your story - is the hardest part.