It is curious that while good people go to great lengths to spare their children from suffering, few of them seem to notice that the one (and only) guaranteed way to prevent all the suffering of their children is not to bring those children into existence in the first place.
David BenatarIt is unlikely that many people will take to heart the conclusion that coming into existence is always a harm. It is even less likely that many people will stop having children. By contrast, it is quite likely that my views either will be ignored or will be dismissed. As this response will account for a great deal of suffering between now and the demise of humanity, it cannot plausibly be thought of as philanthropic. That is not to say that it is motivated by any malice towards humans, but it does result from a self-deceptive indifference to the harm of coming into existence.
David BenatarAs we have seen, nobody is lucky enough not to be born, everybody is unlucky enough to have been born โ and particularly bad luck it is.
David BenatarNotice, by extension, that in a democracy those committed to non-procreation could never, in the long run, prevail politically against those committed to procreation.
David BenatarWe infrequently contemplate the harms that await any new-born childโpain, disappointment, anxiety, grief, and death. For any given child we cannot predict what form these harms will take or how severe they will be, but we can be sure that at least some of them will occur. None of this befalls the nonexistent. Only existers suffer harm.
David BenatarEach one of us was harmed by being brought into existence. That harm is not negligible, because the quality of even the best lives is very badโand considerably worse than most people recognize it to be. Although it is obviously too late to prevent our own existence, it is not too late to prevent the existence of future possible people.
David Benatar