We eventually learn that emotional closure is our own action. We can be responsible for it. In any moment, we can choose to open or to close.

By learning to open your heart and body while embracing and trusting all energies, from rough ravishment to sublime gentleness, you can open to be lived by the mystery that lives the entire universe.

Your suffering is shaped exactly by your refusal to open.

The energy that moves life is the force of the Feminine. She is unstoppable. She is the source of all life, the mover of blood, the breather of breath, the flow of the river's water. The Feminine is life. We can feel Her moving and living in any moment we are open to Her, or as Her.

Practicing love often means feeling through fear: intentionally opening yourself when you would rather close down, giving yourself when you would rather hide. Love means recognizing yourself as the open fullness of this moment regardless of its contents -- trenchant thoughts, enchanting pleasures, heavy emotions, or gnawing pains -- and surrendering all hold on the familiar act you call 'me'.

If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back, then you suffer.

Masculine anger is always because you are feeling constrained, trapped by life. Feminine anger is always because you are feeling unloved.