Good humor isn't a trait of character, it is an art which requires practice.
No man will work for your interests unless they are his.
Make yourself an efficient spark plug, igniting the latent energy of those about you.
He who doesn't consider himself is seldom considerate of others.
Modern science knows much about such conflicts. We call the mental state that engenders it "ambivalence": a collision between thought and feeling.
Try out your ideas by visualizing them in action.