This is really America in therapy, people trying to get themselves together and be whole.
Just imagine that you are the person you want to be.
To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
To fail is a natural consequence of trying, To succeed takes time and prolonged effort in the face of unfriendly odds. To think it will be any other way, no matter what you do, is to invite yourself to be hurt and to limit your enthusiasm for trying again.
You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.
Take the best action toward your most important goal right now.