I can't stand family secrets. I think they're such a toxic thing and they always leak out.
Decca AitkenheadI've discovered that, in order for life to go on, you have to believe in necessary fantasies such as what you think is going to happen next week will actually happen, the people who are alive right now will be alive next week.
Decca AitkenheadOne of the rather unedifying truths about grief is it does block out more or less everything. It has a solipsistic quality to it.
Decca AitkenheadMy hunch, for what it's worth, is that most of us probably find it much, much harder than we realize to really imagine what catastrophe is like. I have a hunch that we all labor under this rather convenient illusion that if we read about the Syrian refugee crisis, we can imagine what it feels like to set off from your home and your life with all your possessions in two bin liners. We all think that we can imagine that and my guess is that none of us have got a clue.
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