If you do not for give you actually are tying yourself to the perpetrator, that you are going to live your life as a victim. And you won't experience a liberation that comes from forgiving.
Desmond TutuBefore Nelson Mandela was arrested in 1962, he was an angry, relatively young man. He founded the ANC's military wing. When he was released, he surprised everyone because he was talking about reconciliation and forgiveness and not about revenge.
Desmond TutuPeople want much the same things, but they have been formed by history to have a particular perception of the other.
Desmond TutuWe can no longer continue feeding our addiction to fossil fuels as if there is no tomorrow. For there will be no tomorrow.
Desmond TutuOf course, you've got to reckon with the burden of the past. You can't just easily dismiss it. It is a legacy and often you have to carry an albatross. And it won't happen until people are able to have a certain level of trust and try to speak to each other, not as caricatures but as people.
Desmond Tutu