Forgiveness does not mean condoning what has been done. Forgiving means abandoning your right to pay back the perpetrator in his own coin.
Desmond TutuAs the victim, you offer the gift of your forgiving to the perpetrator who may or may not appropriate the gift but it has been offered and thereby it liberates the victim.
Desmond TutuReligion is like a knife: you can either use it to cut bread, or stick in someone's back.
Desmond Tutu