Forgiving and being reconciled to our enemies or our loved ones are not about pretending that things are other than they are. It is not about patting one another on the back and turning a blind eye to the wrong. True reconciliation exposes the awfulness, the abuse, the hurt, the truth. It could even sometimes make things worse. It is a risky undertaking but in the end it is worthwhile, because in the end only an honest confrontation with reality can bring real healing. Superficial reconciliation can bring only superficial healing.
Desmond TutuGod's love is too great to be confined to any one side of a conflict or to any one religion.
Desmond TutuOne of the things we might want to learn when considering the failings of others is not to gloat because someone else has tripped up.
Desmond Tutu