As the victim, you offer the gift of your forgiving to the perpetrator who may or may not appropriate the gift but it has been offered and thereby it liberates the victim.
Desmond TutuLife is funny and we are really funny, especially when we get to be hoity toity; we can be so ridiculous. Life is fun.
Desmond TutuI often accompanied my father. I really liked riding with him on his bicycle on Saturdays. He was very fond of fishing. I donโt think I liked fishing. I mean, you had to sit quietly and still, but I enjoyed the ride. And it was fun, it was fun. I mean, as I say, you didnโt go around lugging a deep sense of resentment. We knew, yes, we were deprived. It wasnโt the same thing for white kids, but it was as full a life as you could make it. I mean, we made toys for ourselves with wires, making cars, and you really were exploding with joy!
Desmond Tutu