There are two types of men in this world--one is looking for a woman to make his life complete and the other is looking for a woman to join his complete life.

No love is conditional. If love is conditional, it’s just some sort of manipulation masquerading as love.

I've wondered, though, if one of the reasons we fail to acknowledge the brilliance of life is because we don't want the responsibility inherent in the acknowledgment. We don't want to be characters in a story because characters have to move and breathe and face conflict with courage. And if life isn't remarkable, then we don't have to do any of that; we can be unwilling victims instead of grateful participants.

There's no authoritarian structure at Reed College, but the education is conservative. So what you have is a lot of students who are very authentically looking for truth.

Meaningful stories have lots and lots of conflict. If we avoid conflict, our stories won't be meaningful.

I think understanding your life as a story is a really terrific way of kind of knowing where you are and knowing who you are.

I love writing books - I really do. If I could just quit everything and work on a book every day, I would love that most.