The success of an organization will depend on the people you surround yourself with.
Death has a tendency to encourage a depressing view of war.
If in doubt, move decisions up to the President.
With the press there is no "off the record.
Most US presidents since World War II have led military actions without a declaration of war by Congress, though most, if not all, have properly consulted and sought support from Congress. That is the wise thing to do.
In the execution of Presidential decisions work to be true to his views, in fact and tone.