I don't mind saying in advance that in my opinion jealousy is normal and healthy. Jealousy arises out of the fact that children love. If they have no capacity to love, then they don't show jealousy.
Donald Woods WinnicottIt is in playing and only in playing that the individual child or adult is able to be creative and to use the whole personality, and it is only in being creative that the individual discovers the self.
Donald Woods WinnicottFeeling real is more than existing; it is finding a way to exist as oneself... and to have a self into which to retreat for relaxation.
Donald Woods WinnicottThe fact that grief takes so long to resolve is not a sign of inadequacy, but betokens depth of soul.
Donald Woods WinnicottIf mothers are told to do this or that or the other,... they lose touch with their own ability to act.... Only too easily they feel incompetent. If they must look up everything in a book, they are always too late even when they do the right things, because the right things have to be done immediately. It is only possible to act at exactly the right point when the action is intuitive or by instinct, as we say. The mind can be brought to bear on the problem afterwards.
Donald Woods Winnicott