And just as music is the space between notes, just as the stars are beautiful because of the space between them, just as the sun strikes raindrops at a certain angle and throws a prism of color across the sky—so the space where I exist, and want to keep existing, and to be quite frank I hope I die in, is exactly this middle distance: where despair struck pure otherness and created something sublime.

Who was it said that coincidence was just God’s way of remaining anonymous?

A great sorrow, and one that I am only beginning to understand: we don’t get to choose our own hearts. We can’t make ourselves want what’s good for us or what’s good for other people. We don’t get to choose the people we are.

Beauty is rarely soft or consolatory. Quite the contrary. Genuine beauty is always quite alarming.

If I had grown up in that house I couldn't have loved it more, couldn't have been more familiar with the creak of the swing, or the pattern of the clematis vines on the trellis, or the velvety swell of land as it faded to gray on the horizon . . . . The very colors of the place had seeped into my blood.

When you feel homesick,’ he said, ‘just look up. Because the moon is the same wherever you go.

To really be centered and to really work well and to think about the kinds of things that I need to think about, I need to spend large amounts of time alone.