The final word is love.
What I read in the Bible seemed to me to be very much a part of daily life.
You can spend your time agonizing or organizing.
When you love people, you see all the good in them, all the Christ in them. God sees Christ, His Son, in us and loves us. And so we should see Christ in others, and nothing else, and love them. There can never be enough of it. There can never be enough thinking about it.
Too much praise makes you feel you must be doing something terribly wrong.
True obedience is a matter of love, which makes it voluntary, not compelled by fear or force.