I cannot be with someone who takes pleasure in inflicting pain on me, someone who can't love me

I really like clever men who challenge you.

Once you're in charge of your job, your house, your children, getting the food on the table, doing all of this, all of the time, it'd be nice for someone else to be in charge for a bit maybe.

I cannot be with someone who takes pleasure in inflicting pain on me, someone who can't love me

So you've just slept with him, given him your virginity, a man who doesn't love you. In fact, he has odd ideas about you, wants to make you some sort of kinky sex slave.

Men aren't really complicated. They are very simple, literal creatures. They usually mean what they say. And we spend hours trying to analyze what they've said, when really it's obvious.

Any relationship that you have is about negotiation - anything - whether there is a written contract or not.