I cannot be with someone who takes pleasure in inflicting pain on me, someone who can't love me

I think virgins are far more interesting to write about. If we've been around the block a few times, we know what to expect. Not so with virgins.

Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me. Perhaps I've spent too long in the company of my literary romantic heroes, and consequently my ideals and expectations are far too high.

Any relationship that you have is about negotiation - anything - whether there is a written contract or not.

Never trust a man who can dance.

A controlling man, surely a mythical creature?

I don't think [Fifty Shades of Grey is] a model for anything. Except maybe in bed.