So you've just slept with him, given him your virginity, a man who doesn't love you. In fact, he has odd ideas about you, wants to make you some sort of kinky sex slave.

I do not look at the world in terms of black and white - and I find people who do rather scary. I think it's all shades of grey.

Women basically want the same thing - a good passionate story, a great fantasy - and for our partners to do the laundry and the washing up.

Any relationship that you have is about negotiation - anything - whether there is a written contract or not.

A controlling man, surely a mythical creature?

I've set the bar quite high in terms of storytelling.

Don't get your panties in such a twist... and give me back mine.