My friends started having children after college, while I was pursuing this crazy acting career and living hand to mouth. Plus, all my boyfriends were artists struggling to make a living. Having kids didn't make any sense - why would I take on more of a financial burden when I couldn't even afford a dog?

I'm just not one of those people who thought having biological children was that important, to me it was more about wanting to raise a child.

I'm a very ritualistic, routine-oriented person, and I discovered over the years that I love working Monday through Friday.

I have lots of friends and, like me, they're not married. So my kids have lots of godparents - men and women, gay and straight. My loft is always filled with people helping me out with them and loving them.

We're living in a time when parenting is not at all mirroring the way I was parented. For me, I just followed my parents around on their errands; when they were busy on the phone, I was quiet. It's a different kettle of fish these days: They run the house, and you listen to their music, and you go to their appointments.

My actual personality probably lies someplace between the two.

In my household there is an insane amount of laughter and celebration.