It seems to me that it is the basic right of any human being to work.
No human being can ever 'own' another, whether in friendship, love, marriage, or parenthood.
A little simplification would be the first step toward rational living, I think.
You'll be "damned if you do, and damned if you don't."
About the only value the story of my life may have is to show that one can, even without any particular gifts, overcome obstacles that seem insurmountable if one is willing to face the fact that they must be overcome.
No human being can ever "own" another, whether in friendship, love, marriage or parenthood. Many human relationships have been ruined and happiness far too often changed to misery by a failure to understand this.