There are no have-to's, just choices

I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision.

As for accomplishments, I just did what I had to do as things came along.

We all grow older and we all have to live with ourselves.

A mature person is one who does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and in all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably with the circumstances of life, knowing that in this world no one is all knowing and therefore all of us need both love and charity.

Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.

Furnish an example, stop preaching, stop shielding, don't prevent self-reliance and initiative, allow your children to develop along thier own lines.