Problem is, you canโt accept that his relationship had a real short shelf life. Youโre like a dog at the dump, baby โ youโre just lickinโ at the empty tin can, trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if youโre not careful, that canโs gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make your life miserable. So drop it.โ โBut I love him.โ โSo love him.โ โBut I miss him.โ โSo miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, then drop it.
Elizabeth GilbertThere were times, especially when I was traveling for 'Eat, Pray, Love,' when, I swear to God, I would feel this weight of my female ancestors, all those Swedish farmwives from beyond the grave who were like, 'Go! Go to Naples! Eat more pizza! Go to India, ride an elephant! Do it! Swim in the Indian Ocean. Read those books. Learn a language.'
Elizabeth Gilbertevery healthy marriage is composed of walls and windows. The windows are the aspects of your relationship that are open to the worldโthat is, the necessary gaps through which you interact with family and friends; the walls are the barriers of trust behind which you guard the most intimatesecrets of your marriage.
Elizabeth GilbertNow, if you are like me - if you are like practically anybody in America - then you probably hold some negative opinions about the French, based upon movies, rumors, recent headlines, unfortunate run-ins with Parisian waiters, or... you know... all that unpleasantness surrounding the Vichy regime.
Elizabeth GilbertParla come magni,' It means, 'Speak the way you eat,' or in my personal translation: 'Say it like you eat it.' It's a reminder - when you're making a big deal out of explaining something, when you're searching for the right words - to keep your language as simple and direct as Roman rood. Don't make a big production out of it. Just lay it on the table.
Elizabeth Gilbert