It is not wrong to be different. Sometimes it is hard, but it is not wrong.
I had, of course, no model for that sort of woman being married, but I can make that up as I go along.
Everything in my life that I value has been gained at the cost of not saying what I really think and saying what they want me to say.
Having to struggle gave me the chance to demonstrate strength of character.
I can become very emotional about math, although I'm not that good at it.
But in fantasy, you can make a complete break, and you can put people in a situation where they are confronted with things that they would not confront in the real world.