What it boils down to is that parenting a child with autism is a difficult job; writing about it is far easier.
Hard to be a physics major at Rice University if you have flunked calculus.
I love biomedical science, I love astronomy, and you can't really do much with those in a fantasy setting.
Now my mother, interestingly enough, was not a feminist in her own mind.
Having to struggle gave me the chance to demonstrate strength of character.
It may be far in the future, but there's some kind of logical way to get from where we are to where the science fiction is.