but i am content to live in the moment, and allow myself the daily pleasure of obsessing. nothing lasts forever, i tell myself. especially the good stuff. although typically you aren't faced with a hard deadline

When you are in a relationship, you are aware that it might end. You might grow apart, find someone else, simply fall out of love. But a friendship isn't a zero-sum game, and as such, you assume that it will last forever, especially an old friendship. You take its permanence for grandted, whuch might be the very thing so dear about it.

Things are what they are and there's no point dwelling in the past or wondering what could have been.

Well, because sometimes you love someone but they might not be the right person for you. That takes some time to figure out

Sorrow comes with so many defense mechanisms. You have your shock, your denial, your getting wasted, your cracking jokes, and your religion. You also have the old standby catchall—the blind belief in fate, the whole "things happening for a reason" drill.

I think the most well-adjusted people live in the present with an eye toward the future - I'm not among those.

In days that follow, I discover that anger is easier to handle than grief.