I nod, thinking of how difficult marriage can be, how much effort is required to sustain a feeling between two people - a feeling that you can't imagine will ever fade in the beginning when everything comes so easily. I think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That is the only real way to grow together, instead of apart.

I don't really know why I went to law school.

It's amazing to me how few guys know their friends' birthdays.

But certainly not everyday you can find someone who wants to have a monogamous relationship

I think I hoped for something more. Maybe I even hoped that I could find in Richard what I had with Ben. But it is suddenly very clear: Richard is not fallin in love with me and I'm not falling in love with Richard. We are not creating anything permanent or special. We are only having fun together. It is a fling- a fling just like he said last night- a fling with an ending yet to be determined. I feel relieved to have it defined

After all, I think, isn't it always about a boy?

you'd do anything to get a soul mate back, right?… I mean, that's the nature of soul mates.