I nod, thinking of how difficult marriage can be, how much effort is required to sustain a feeling between two people - a feeling that you can't imagine will ever fade in the beginning when everything comes so easily. I think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That is the only real way to grow together, instead of apart.

I try to recognize that there is no such thing as having it all - and it's impossible to be perfect. You just have to let certain things go.

I don't break up, I trade up

Guilt is a supreme waste of time and energy.

I try to write about real women, real people - in other words flawed characters.

Change can be good but its always tough to let go of the past

Things certainly aren't the way you imagine them when you're a kid and dreaming big dreams about what your life as a grown-up will look like.