But now we have time. Endless time stretches before us.

What appeals to you the most is the very thing that will drive you crazy

And like a favorite old movie, sometimes the sameness in a friend is what you like the most about her.

Buried beneath disappointment and fear, anger and pride, I just might find it in my heart to forgive.

Guilt is a supreme waste of time and energy.

There are no absolutes in relationships. You can't take anything for granted. You can count on absolutely nothing but the unexpected. You only get in trouble when you start thinking that you're some kind of exception to the rule.

I nod, thinking of how difficult marriage can be, how much effort is required to sustain a feeling between two people - a feeling that you can't imagine will ever fade in the beginning when everything comes so easily. I think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That is the only real way to grow together, instead of apart.