I do not expect to get what I want, so I don't. And I don't even try.

My name is Kirby Rose, and I'm adopted. I don't mean to make it sound like an AA confession, although sometimes that's how people take it, like it's something they should be supportive about. I just mean that they are two basic facts about me.

I always find something in common with my protagonist, particularly when I write in the first person.

Things certainly aren't the way you imagine them when you're a kid and dreaming big dreams about what your life as a grown-up will look like.

Inevitably I draw on my own relationships when I write, so if I'm writing about a fight between a husband and his wife, of course I'm going to think about a recent fight with my husband. Or if I'm writing about sisters, of course I'm going to think about my sister.

Life's not black-and-white. Sometimes the ends justifies the means.

I will find the good in this loss. I will make something happen that wouldn't have happened otherwise.