I really believe that you have to earn things. I don't feel comfortable unless I have worked really hard.
I do worry about the expectation to look a certain way.
If I've learned anything, it's really just to stop trying to find answers and certainties.
I'm a perfectionist, so my bossiness definitely comes out.
There's nothing interesting about looking perfect.
Really I was open-minded about doing anything, but the one thing I didn't want to do was get myself into a corset, because I was worried I'd never get out again.