When you actively engage in gradually refining yourself, you retreat from your lazy ways of covering yourself or making excuses. Instead of feeling a persistent current of low-level shame, you move forward by using the creative possibilities of this moment, your current situation.
EpictetusNot every difficult and dangerous thing is suitable for training, but only that which is conducive to success in achieving the object of our effort.
EpictetusMen are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen.
Epictetus