There is a rhythm to the ending of a marriage just like the rhythm of a courtship-only backward. You try to start again but get into blaming over and over. Finally you are both worn out, exhausted, hopeless. Then lawyers are called in to pick clean the corpses. The death has occurred much earlier.
Erica Jongbiography is essentially a collaborative art, the latest biographer collaborating with all those who wrote earlier.
Erica JongIf you apologize for something that isn't your fault in the first place, you, in effect, confirm their belief that it is your fault.
Erica Jong