It's useful to know how much society's holding you back. My mother would talk about how she was told by the head of her art school that she was the best painter, but that she wouldn't get the biggest prize because she would waste her talent by having children. I think we have to get honest with girls about how they can expect the world to block them, and we have to prepare girls, and ourselves, to break through those blocks.

I think men have always been afraid of women's sexuality, and the restrictions they put on women testify to that.

It's only when you're forbidden to talk about the future that you suddenly realize how much the future normally occupies the present.

I am not quite sure how writing changes things, but I know that it does. It is indirect-like the trails of earthworms aerating the earth. It is not always deliberate-like the tails of glowing dust dragged by comets.

Language matters because whoever controls the words controls the conversation, because whoever controls the conversation controls its outcome, because whoever frames the debate has already won it, because telling the truth has become harder and harder to achieve in an America drowning in Orwellian Newspeak.

I am not sure if love is a salve or just a deeper kind of wound.

I have forgotten my rave reviews and memorized my vicious ones - like most writers.