It is fateful and ironic how the lie we need in order to live dooms us to a life that is never really ours.
Ernest BeckerModern man is drinking and drugging himself out of awareness, or he spends his time shopping, which is the same thing.
Ernest BeckerWhy would a person prefer the accusations of guilt, unworthiness, ineptitude โ even dishonor and betrayal โ to real possibility? This may not seem to be the choice, but it is: complete self-effacement, surrender to the โothers,โ disavowal of any personal dignity or freedom โ on the one hand; and freedom and independence, movement away from the others, extrication of oneself from the binding links of family and social duties-on the other hand. This is the choice that the depressed person actually faces.
Ernest Becker