What does it mean to be a self-conscious animal? The idea is ludicrous, if it is not monstrous. It means to know that one is food for worms.
Ernest BeckerIt is fateful and ironic how the lie we need in order to live dooms us to a life that is never really ours.
Ernest BeckerTo live is to play at the meaning of life...The upshot of this . . . is that it teaches us once and for all that childlike foolishness is the calling of mature men.
Ernest BeckerWhy would a person prefer the accusations of guilt, unworthiness, ineptitude โ even dishonor and betrayal โ to real possibility? This may not seem to be the choice, but it is: complete self-effacement, surrender to the โothers,โ disavowal of any personal dignity or freedom โ on the one hand; and freedom and independence, movement away from the others, extrication of oneself from the binding links of family and social duties-on the other hand. This is the choice that the depressed person actually faces.
Ernest Becker