Are you asking a question because you want to know the answer or are you asking the question because you want your partner to know that you are having this question?
Esther PerelWhen we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become.
Esther PerelThe kiss that you have never given is just as powerful as hours of actual lovemaking. The erotic isn't just what is happening between people's legs. It is also what's happening in their erotic mind.
Esther PerelAcceptance doesn't mean predictability. Sex isn't always for 11 at night - - it's also 'meet at a hotel room at noon'. What you feel during dating can exist at home, if you don't suffocate it.
Esther PerelReal sexual conversations are enormously intimate and beautiful because they reveal so much about who we are and what we want. What are the emotional needs we bring to our sexuality and how do we connect to ourselves and connect to a partner? There's such a rich tapestry that can be revealed, but the vast majority of couples have never had those talks.
Esther Perel