Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy

The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy

One of the most amazing abilities of sexuality is to momentarily transcend the borders of Self into something that is no longer defined by physical property and that is utterly unique. It's really what many call a religious experience.

Success, to me, is helping one person or many people counter the isolation and pseudoconnectivity of our lives by boosting their ability to connect to themselves and to others.

The meaning of secrecy is very different when the model of love is one of transparency. So to understand the politics of secrecy and revelation, you need to understand the larger culture in which the couple lives and also the culture of the couple itself. What does intimacy mean to them? Where does the couple draw the line between togetherness and separateness? That's what informs you. You always ask, "What would happen if I tell? What would happen if I don't tell?" Sometimes, the partner doesn't want to know.

In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person stays.