Security isn't what I hunger for. I hunger for change. I hunger for connection.

Cherish your solitude. Take trains by yourself to places you have never been. Sleep out alone under the stars.

For me, so much of my life has been this attempt to find my way back into my body. I tried various forms, from promiscuity, to eating disorders, to performance art. And I think it wasn't until I got cancer, where I was suddenly being pricked and ported and chemoed and operated on, that I suddenly just became body. I was just a body. And it was in that, in that finally landing in myself that I really discovered the world in my body.

What I have found is that even when you try to transform existing structures they are so powerful they often overwhelm, seduce, and control you.

I think violence against women in America has become ordinary - it's been made absolutely acceptable.

Security is elusive. It's impossible. We all die. We all get old. We all get sick. People leave us. People change us. Nothing is secure.

The mechanism of violence is what destroys women, controls women, diminishes women and keeps women in their so-called place.