The basic mistake people make is to think that happiness is the goal!
Many people see happiness only in their future.
Many people think that happiness comes from having more power or more money.
Making comparisons can spoil your happiness.
People fall in love more easily when they are already troubled by another emotion because we know that any intense emotional state greatly increases the risk of falling in love.
Eros is not tranquil-it gives us spikes of happiness rather than a constant feeling of wellbeing. It's the love we feel at the beginning of a love affair and corresponds to the expression 'falling in love' since it is as involuntary an impulse as a physical fall.