The kundalini comes in two primary forms when it comes forward from a spiritual teacher.
Frederick LenzThe main reason people fail is they become attached to others who hold them back. Letting go of others and going forward may seem like a lonely and impossible task, but I assure you it is not.
Frederick LenzA soul mate is not necessarily someone with whom you set up housekeeping. Your soul and their soul have a multi-incarnation attraction.
Frederick LenzSexual energy becomes problematic if you use to enslave someone, to demoralize them, to hurt them, to wrap them up. The way most people use sexual energy is to hook somebody, to wrap them.
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