It's not the gentle part I have a problem with, it's the dull, stupid part.
Have you ever considered that there isn't a safe time to be around you?
Do you have the discipline to be a free spirit?
A lot of women seem to think the way to ingratiate themselves is to put down other women or backstab.
Just like I find men who talk sports who don't really know sports annoying, I think men might find women who don't really have a true passion and knowledge of sports maybe not so attractive.
It's easier to believe in yourself after someone else has believed in you first.