The secret of a leader lies in the tests he has faced over the whole course of his life and the habit of action he develops in meeting those tests.

children may need challenges and high-risk conditions in order to develop the self-generated immunity to trauma that characterizes survivors. To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist.

Growth demands a temporary surrender of security. It may mean a giving up of familiar but limiting patterns, safe but unrewarding work, values no longer believed in, relationships that have lost their meaning. As Dostoevsky put it, "Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most." The real fear should be of the opposite course.

The source of continuing aliveness was to find your passion and pursue it, with whole heart and single mind.

No sooner do we think we have assembled a comfortable life than we find a piece of ourselves that has no place to fit in.

The fundamental steps of expansion that will open a person, over time, to the full flowering of his or her individuality are the same for both genders. But men and women are rarely in the same place struggling with the same questions at the same age.

The delights of self-discovery are always available.