We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they will, with the help of God, consistently speak their love language no matter how they are treated.

Another reality about relationships is that they are never static. All of us experience changes in relationships but a few stop to analyse why a relationship gets better or worse.

Emotions are our spontaneous response to life. We have these emotions, but if the emotion is a negative emotion, then I have a choice to say, "I am feeling sad tonight because this happened, but I am not going to let my sadness keep me from engaging my wife in conversation. "

What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.

Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other.

The one who chooses to love will find appropriate ways to express that decision everyday.

Every single day in a marriage, we influence each other. It is a matter of am I going to have a positive influence or a negative influence?