There is no right or wrong behavior. The only meaningful choice is between fear and love.
Love doesn't care what we call it.
How simple it is to see that all the worry in the world cannot control the future.
Not judging is another way of letting go of fear and experiencing Love. When we learn not to judge others - and totally accept them, and not want to change them - we can simultaneously learn to accept ourselves.
Other people do not have to change for us to experience peace of mind.
It is when judgment ceases that healing occurs.