A portable friend to all readers-especia lly but not only women-who need to learn that the Golden Rule works only if it's reversible: We must learn to treat ourselves as well as we wish to treat others.

You have no choice but to live in the present, if you're really being open to events and people as they come along.

Inner space is the real frontier.

I'd just begun to be taken seriously as a freelance writer, but after the Playboy article, I mostly got requests to go underground in some other semi-sexual way. It was so bad that I returned an advance to turn the Playboy article into a paperback, even though I had to borrow the money.

When you say something in a wrong group - it will never be right, so you can not say anything wrong, when you don't belong to a group.

We'll only really know we've succeeded when a mediocre woman does as well as a mediocre man. You shouldn't have to be extraordinary. That's the point!

A rejection of the way a woman speaks is often a way of blaming or dismissing her without dealing with the content of what she is saying.