Where men come to and women come together most intimately in sexuality in the home has become suffused with violence.

We move away from only the binary boxes of "masculine" or "feminine" and begin to live along the full human continuum of identity and expression.

Most of us are living out the unlived lives of our mothers, because they were not able to become the unique people they were born to be.

Writers - we're a little crazy about how much we care about it. We spend a lot of time fussing. At least, I do.

In my own mind, I am still a fat brunette from Toledo, and I always will be.

The human body is not obscene, sexuality is not obscene. But it [pornography] is not sex, it is violence. It encourages acceptance of the idea that violence is a legitimate part of sexuality.

I think we spend a lot of time denying our mothers. We understand other women earlier than we understand our mothers because we're trying so hard to say, "I'm not going to be like my mother" that we blame her for her condition. If we didn't blame her for her condition, we would have to admit that it could happen to us, too. I spent a long time doing that, thinking that my mother's problems were uniquely her fault.