I would say don't worry about what you should do, do whatever you can. And seek companions with shared values.

Clinging to the past is the problem. Embracing change is the answer.

Power in this country is often like hemophilia; it passes through women and then men get it.

Am I a capitalist? No. Why would I be a capitalist? I have no capital. Most people have no capital. But to punish the individual for the sins of the system makes no sense. We're responsible for changing it, yes. But we can't actually invent another universe, so we have to start where we are.

That's a huge fear for middle-class women. It's not so much a fear for poor women, because poor women have always assumed that they are going to have to support themselves. It's middle-class women who have this fantasy that somebody else is going to support them.

Like so many women, I was living out the unlived life of my mother, so I wouldn't be her. But the price I paid was that I distanced myself internally. I wasn't as close to her then as I nowadays, in retrospect, wish I had been.

Oppression has no logic--just a self-fulfilling prophecy, justified by a self-perpetuating system.