The kind of power I want is the power to persuade. But I do not want the power to tell other people what to do.

They would say well there's always been wars, men have always beaten women. But it isn't true in all cultures. It doesn't have to be true. And the first step is imaging.

Of course, we can change. We're very adaptable. But it takes a while.

Proust's tea cake has nothing on one hour in a college dorm.

If we're by ourselves we come to feel crazy and alone. We need to make alternate families of small groups of women who support each other, talk to each other regularly, can speak their truths and their experiences and find they're not alone in them, that other women have them, too ... It makes such a huge difference.

Feminism isn't whatever you want it to be.

[on sexual politics] The Golden Rule works for men as written, but for women it should go the other way around. We need to do unto ourselves as we do unto others.