If you say, I'm for equal pay, that's a reform. But if you say. I'm a feminist, that's a transformation of society.

The uncomfortable truth seems to be that the amount of talk by women has been measured less against the amount of men's talk than against the expectation of female silence.

The surest way to be alone is to get married.

A rejection of the way a woman speaks is often a way of blaming or dismissing her without dealing with the content of what she is saying.

It's a big gift to be recognizable as part of something that matters to people, but that's not the same as being responsible for something.

If you listen to the Catholic bishops you would think that Catholics are against contraception and legal abortion, but if you ask actual Catholics, you discover that more than 90% of Catholic women use contraception and Catholic women seem to need and choose legal abortion at about the same rate as everybody else. The problem is that the backlash occupies positions of power, not that it represents the majority of people.

I always thought that "humanist" was a good word long before I understood that anyone thought it was a bad word.