... patriarchy creates megapatterns that affect us all--even as we forge different individual choices within them--just as do themegapatterns of nationalism or racism.

Labeling makes the invisible visible, but it's limiting. Categories are the enemy of connecting. Link, don't rank.

The idea that women don't smell fine on our own is a problem.

For a man to say, "I have to leave work now because I need to do something with my kids," it's sometimes viewed as a career killer. He doesn't have the right drive. So when they depart from their gender roles, they face some of the same restrictions.

A woman reading Playboy feels a little like a Jew reading a Nazi manual.

The best way for us to cultivate fearlessness in our daughters and other young women is by example.

You're a unique person. You should do what you're suited to do. We all should. It's the only way to be happy. That pressure is all outside. It's external.