Whoever has power takes over the noun - and the norm - while the less powerful get an adjective.

Being married is like having somebody permanently in your corner. It feels limitless, not limited.

[on sexual politics] The Golden Rule works for men as written, but for women it should go the other way around. We need to do unto ourselves as we do unto others.

Children who have been very sadistically abused over the long-term are able to dissociate, some of them are able to dissociate as a way of surviving and inventing someone to whom this doesn't happen. And so therefore, they invent within themselves different personalities who have life histories of their own. Many people invent an opposite gender personality as well.

The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn.

I'm not sure that it's up to me to sum up what I've done with it in the past. I'm not sure there's a way of knowing what we have done that is useful or important.

Nothing will happen automatically. Change depends on what you and I do every day.