The human body is not obscene, sexuality is not obscene. But it [pornography] is not sex, it is violence. It encourages acceptance of the idea that violence is a legitimate part of sexuality.

People waste more time waiting for someone to take charge of their lives than they do in any other pursuit.

A rejection of the way a woman speaks is often a way of blaming or dismissing her without dealing with the content of what she is saying.

Whatever the gender of the participants, all pornography including male-male gay pornography is an imitation of the male-female, conqueror-victim paradigm, and almost all of it actually portrays or implies enslaved women and master.

Sadomasochiasm - which we know very well doesn't exist in societies that don't have child abuse - is regarded some sort of natural sexual expression.

Men tend to gain wholeness by acquiring the qualities that are wrongly called feminine.

The whole idea is not to figure out what you should do that will matter, but to make each thing you do reflect the values you want, because we don't know what's going to matter in the future